Inheriting Ecstasy
Explore more. Live better. Deepen your connection to your desires.
dreaming a brilliant, flourishing world in which every body has full access to their capacity for pleasure and bliss
Ecstasy is the flavor of leaning in to life and being fully present with each moment. It is the loud shouts and soft whispers of moments flowing through our lives. It is my umbrella term for all of it — death, fucking, fighting, sadness, joy, wonder, awe — all of this is ecstasy.
Inheriting Ecstasy is a process of remembering.
Remembering what it is to be fully present and alive in a body, so that we may experience all of the pleasures that life has to offer. Inheriting Ecstasy is a process that happens from our ancestor's bodies to our bodies — allowing the blessings of those who lived lives and died deaths of joy and wonder, to land and permeate throughout our lives.
It is also a process that happens from our bodies to the bodies of our descendants — the joy, pleasure, strength, and vitality that we cultivate in this lifetime will go on to feed the children of tomorrow.
This is not only about cultivating your body's capacity for pleasure. This is about the expansion of your capacity for pleasure watering the roots of resilient pleasure which feed the more beautiful worlds to come and the worlds that came before.
This is a process that happens at the speed of the body. This is a practice that spans lifetimes. The tools that you learn in our work together are tools that you can carry with you and pass on to your lovers, your friends, and your children. The tools you learn in our work together guide you towards ways of being in a body that our ancestors knew — that's why I frame it as an inheritance and a remembering.
we live to leave this world more deeply soaked in joy and pleasure than we find it now. each small moment of our lives contributes to this dream; we know the rippling power of even the smallest drop.
What is Somatic Sex Education?
Somatic Sex Education grounds the work of Inheriting Ecstasy in the body. It is the practice of listening deeply to sensation, building capacity for pleasure, and learning the language your body already speaks.
Rooted in Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent, this work teaches you to distinguish between giving and receiving, taking and allowing — unlocking clarity in your desires and boundaries.
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In their own words.
Marissa did such a beautiful job infusing fun and joy when appropriate and reverence and deep listening presence when appropriate. I felt met and supported in my desires in a beautiful and wonderful way.
Marissa — thank you for holding space for my vulnerability in my session today. I felt empowered in your presence to ask for what my body needed to receive. You were able to meet me where I was at and I was able to have a learning experience because I felt safe.
I came into the session not knowing what I needed. Marissa helped me tap into the light and also the dark. Dropping the "good girl" role I've been conditioned to default to felt incredibly empowering. They did a great job tuning into what I needed and I'm just so grateful.
Offerings rooted in body, pleasure, and lineage.
Each path is an invitation to remember what your body already knows — and to pass that knowing forward.
Living Desire
A three-month 1:1 intensive in daily devotion to your desire.Through prayer to the Ancestors of Pleasure, a daily practice of saying Yes to what you want and No to what you don't, and ongoing support via text and voice notes, we build the conditions for desire to move freely through your life.
This is not a quick fix. It is a living practice — one that asks you to show up every day and let your body lead.
"I met spirits I did not know and confronted blocks around the experience of pleasure I hadn’t considered. I left with an understanding that my life as I live it is not random or out of line but a culmination of the deepest unattainable desires of many who came before me, and they watch me with pride, joy, and amazement. I breathe more luscious breaths, feeling for pleasure for its own sake and a sign of rightness rather than utility." — Ancestral Erotic Healing Client, 2024Be Notified Next Time My Books Open→
Working With Women
Safety, softness, and the radical pleasure of a woman's body.I have found it deeply rewarding to hold space for women to deepen into their pleasure. Our nervous systems share a common experience — and there is a stable safety that moves through my body that grounds the bodies of other women into a place where they feel comfortable softening into receiving.
Whether you are queer, straight, trans, or non-binary, whether you arrive curious or longing — all of your desires are welcome in this space.
"The erotic offers a well of replenishing and provocative force to the woman who does not fear its revelation." — Audre Lorde
Prayers for the Ancestors
Liberate yourself and your lineage from the shame that stands between you and your pleasure.This offering is a ritual of ancestral erotic healing — an opening and closing prayer intended to free both you and your ancestors from inherited shame, and to offer the sacrament of your pleasure as a healing balm across generations.
Though these prayers are designed to open and close a Mindful Erotic Practice, you are invited to say, sing, or carry them wherever you are called.
"You who lived lives and died deaths of joy and wonder — turn around now, reach out your hands to us and bring us with you." — Opening Prayer
Marissa's depth of insight and experiential understanding of relationship dynamics has saved my relationship from unnecessary turmoil on multiple occasions. As someone who has only recently waded into the often emotionally-challenging waters of polyamory, I would have really gotten lost in some of my old patterns without Marissa's gentle guidance to be honest, vulnerable, and kind to my partner even in those moments where I feel the most emotionally raw and desirous to lash out in my fear.
There have been multiple moments where Marissa's suggestion led to a total light bulb of realization. Things I didn't know were available because I'd never been taught them. "Wait, I can just be vulnerable here?!" As a friend and a confidant, I trust her so much to have my best interests and the best interests of my partners at heart — that she knows in her core that flourishing and healing might be the active modes of all interpersonal relations.
I highly recommend working with her if this sort of work sounds interesting and nourishing to you.
At the intersection of the spiritual and the somatic.
I am a certified, trauma-informed, Somatic Sex Educator interested in the intersection of spiritual and somatic practices, particularly in the areas of ancestral trauma and establishing good relations with the dead. I have explored my own erotic capacities with the practice and performance of shibari suspension (Japanese erotic rope tying).
My work lives at the place where the body's wisdom meets the ancestors' blessings — helping people remember what their nervous systems already know about pleasure, power, and presence.
What I have offered
Your body already knows.
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