Working With Women

Safety in Vulnerability

I have found it extremely rewarding to hold space for women to deepen into their pleasure. Our nervous systems share a common experience of the world as folks who identify as women and have been raised as women. I enjoy providing this space for anyone that has walked through the world as a woman, whether you identify as queer, straight, trans, or non-binary.

I have an innate understanding of what it means to be hesitant around opening to a space of vulnerability because of my experience in the world as a woman. My body understands the need for the safety that allows for the depth of an erotic experience.

There is a stable safety that moves through my body that grounds the bodies of other women into a place where they feel comfortable softening into receiving touch. This is the feedback I have consistently received from women that I have worked with: they feel safe.

Women feel safe enough to ask for the kind of touch that they want to receive. In some of my sessions this includes genital touch, in many of my sessions this includes feeling safe enough to say “I do not want my genitals touched can we spend the entire session with you gently stroking my back with the tips of your fingers? Will you massage my feet? Will you gently touch my face?” and to focus on sinking into the pleasure capacity of their whole body.

Queerness

There is a trope common amongst queer-identified women that though we are drenched in longing we never find ourselves in each other’s embrace because we are too scared, nervous, or something to make the first move.

Queer women want to be touched by other women! We want to know how to ask for touch from other women, we want to have that experience of asking for the touch we want from a woman, and receiving it, land in our bodies.

My work with clients in somatic sex education provides a space for women to experience pleasurable touch from another woman, in a space that encourages openness and explicit conversation around the dynamics that are present in the space with that touch, so that they can be reworked, rewired, re-understood. Why do you struggle to let yourself have soft tender touch from women? What does it mean to you that you want and long for Sapphic touch? What practices can help you receive MORE of the touch that you want?

In session space you get a chance to practice asking for what you want, and you get a space to ask in as many different ways as you want to without fear of shame or rejection. All of your desires are welcome in this space.

Curiosity

Session space allows you to explore receiving touch from a woman in a way that doesn’t demand you to nail down an identity. You do not have to claim an identity of queer or lesbian to be curious about receiving touch from a woman. Space like this allows for it to be an experience that focuses on your body and what you like receiving. You can leave the sessions with a whole new world to explore or you may leave the sessions with your curiosity satisfied and no desire to seek touch from other women. Both are valuable experiences.

The Radical Pleasure of A Woman’s Body

Our bodies and the bodies of our ancestors who were raised as women hold within them the history of how the bodies of women have been treated and expected to move through the worlds of the present and of the past.

Often women’s pleasure is co-opted for the gaze and enjoyment of others. How often do we see women enjoying their pleasure for themselves? For their own sake? Outside of a performative context? How often is the body of a woman invited to be in itself for itself? How often is the body of a woman provided a space to just Be A Body?

When you come into relation with the true desires of your body, you afford the same opportunity for the feeling of satisfaction that comes from this knowledge to your ancestors, and to every girl and woman that comes after you. To carry this knowledge in your body gives you the opportunity to pass it on.